Do people love their partners?
It’s a question that has been asked for centuries. And while no one answer will satisfy everyone, there is evidence to suggest that many people don’t love their partners.
One study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that only about 30% of people reported feeling “passionate love” for their partners. The rest reported feeling “companionate love” or “empty love.”
Another study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that couples who reported feeling more love for each other were likelier to be happy in their relationships.
So, what does this all mean? It means that love is a complex emotion and is not always easy to define. But it also means that love is essential and can make a big difference in our relationships.
Why do people confuse love with discrimination?
There are a few reasons why people might confuse love with discrimination.
First, love is often seen as a feeling beyond our control. We might say, “I can’t help who I love.” This can lead us to believe that our feelings of love are always justified, even if they are based on prejudice or discrimination.
Second, love is often seen as a private matter. We might not want to share our feelings of love with others for fear of being judged or ridiculed. This can make it difficult to challenge our prejudices and biases and learn to love people different from us.
Finally, love is often seen as a way to escape our problems. We might be attracted to someone different from us because they represent a way to escape from our reality. This can lead us to ignore the problems in our relationships and make excuses for our partner’s behavior.
How can we learn to love without discrimination?
If we want to learn to love without discrimination, we need to start by challenging our prejudices and biases. We need to be willing to see people for who they are, not for who we want them to be. We also need to be willing to talk about our feelings of love, even if it’s complicated. And finally, we need to be willing to challenge our partners when they say or do discriminatory things.
Learning to love without discrimination is not easy. But it is possible. And it is worth it.